The Dating Stephen: New SECTION/ Too Arrogant for TianaC

The DATING Stephen: New Section/ Too Arrogant for TianaC

What's up guys? Long time no... nothing. This time, it really has been a distinct lack of an inner monologue. My mind is really up in the clouds somewhere, not quite lost, but out of reach. I wonder what's going on with me sometimes.

So here, this is a NEW subdivision of The Ranting Stephen blogs. I call it, The DATING Stephen. In case the name doesn't speak for itself, this section is going to have posts about my failure/success at the College Level of the Dating Game. Dedicated readers will not only get a deeper look into The MIND OF THE WINBURNER (that's me guys..), but maybe it'll be an inspiration to go out and at least try having some success, right?

So as of July, I became a member of OKCUPID, an online dating site. Yup. I'm there. I go under the name WWWwhisperWWW. Why am I telling you this? Maybe you can tell me everything I'm doing wrong with my profile and make this thing work. Or maybe you'll think it's completely awesome (because it is) and just want to feed my ego a bit (it is rather hungry...). Since July, I've had minimal success on the site. I went from 33 views a week down to 10 in a month. I've put out maybe 25 messages, got maybe 7 responses total. And the people I do have conversations with, it seems they're completely turned off by the end of it. I doubt that I'm doing anything that is Wrong, per se. I'm just not getting to talk to the right people.

TOO ARROGANT FOR TIANAC.

so here is my lastest failure on the site. A girl from my Quiver who looked cute enough and had a high enough Match+Friend rating that I messaged her first. Read on.


Hey There
Sep. 10, 2010 – 12:25pm
WWWwhisperWWW:So, I don't know what else we have in common besides people noticing our hair first, but I'm sure there's something. Besides, the people you don't know if you'll relate to are often the most interesting to learn from.
So check me out, see if there's something you like.

Her: So why is whisper framed in www? Out of all the things I could ask u strangely enough my mind keeps wondering back to this.

ME You're the first person to ask that question, +10 points for you. I really put a lot of thought into making my name, so I'm glad I finally get to explain it to someone.

the WWWs are symbolic on three different levels. Literally, the sound it makes when you read them. It feels like the word is longer, and it kind of sounds a bit like a whisper, too.
Physically, the each W is a barrier, a cage if you will, keeping me in and the world out.
And lastly, in a very abstract sense, you have to see "whisper" not as the word or the action of whispering, but as an onomatopoeia. The www is the path the wind takes as it ambles through a forest. It's a sound of the wind rustling through the trees. The "whisper" is an onomatopoeia for the whispering wind as it passes your ear, then continues onward and back into infinity. Gone as quickly as it came.

Ah.. thanks for that.

HER: dang u did put a lot of thought into that... or u just made it up on the spot :P haha so what ur favorite color?! that is actually the first thing i ask people... ahhh and a new question i have yet to ask! what is the cutest thing you can think of???? cause i am a sucker for all things cute.. bunnies, bows, and stuff animals! Lol

ME: I've the name WWWwhisperWWW for quite some time now. Not too many people ask about it anymore.

21 questions huh? Awesome. I'm good at that.
My favorite color is Alizarin. It's very deep, and yet bright. It also holds a lot of history.

And the cutest thing I can think of is
http://i305.photobucket.com/albums/nn233/snowbear99/Tiger-And-Pig.jpg
I promise it isn't a picture of my junk, or my face.

What else have you got for me? I've got one or two I've come up with, and only one of them may you have answered before.

HER: well ask me then!!! and awww that was pretty cute! but omg here is cute! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoSu0rPvEEQ the one drinking the milk is my favorite! cute and it makes me laugh!

ME: Awesome. So my question is
If you were an apple, what kind would you be?

HER: omg! either a granny smith! or Braeburn!

ME: Why? Granny smith and Braeburn are really two different things.

HER: Yes very different! But I have a hard time deciding between the two.. Guess they are both me depending on my mood or if I feel supported or not.. Granny smith's are a for one my favorite kinda greens.. They are super crisp and a little bitter.. But go great with peanut butter! That's me! And braeburns are softer still a little crisp though.. But they are way sweeter! And u they don't need peanut butter and don't really go well with it anyway! That's me! Haha I would have to get all deep to explain futher and I'm typing from my phone now sooo I don't wanna go that far into it

HER: One of my favorite kinda greens.. Idk what the heck I wrote :/

ME: Well, you see, I want to hear the deep explanation. That's the point of the question. It's simple, yes, but it really shows a lot of what a person thinks about themselves -- I'm learning that more and more with the few people I've asked already.
So if you would, please, the deep answer.

HER: i would not on my phone in my bed when it would be two in the morning.. i understand the point of the question but i'm not a fan of typing such answers with my thumbs only.. maybe i should have just point off any answer because now i don't even feel inspired to answer the question because for some reason i'm a bit put off by ur last response.. idk maybe its the granny smith in me, bitter.

ME: Well, I'm sorry to hear that. If you're not willing to put in the effort to chance at a deeper connection beyond cuteness and favorite colors, then I've been wasting my time. I see our commonality does end at the hair.

Thanks for playing.
-WWWwhisperWWW

HER: i have no problem going for deeper connections.. but things like that are more than a question about apples regardless of how deep they are if i poured my heart out to u it wouldn't make for a deep connection.. but my unwillingness had nothing to do with the challenge of saying something deep that in no way is a challenge to me but instead ur manner is what stops me from wanting to share the inside of my mind with you.. you come off quite arrogant like whats the point of telling me u've been wasting ur time as if your time is far to important that 15 minutes of ur overall time has been so terribly wasted because i asked ur favorite color... like ur apple question being so simple and having meaning.. colors have very specific meanings.. but anyway since u feel the need to try and belittle me and you think your time is being wasted ..i am sooo terribly sorry and sincerely apologize :| and i don't play so don't thank me... for this may be a game to you but i find it in no way shape or form a game

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Sarcasm Noted. Apology Accepted =]

That's what I wanted to send to her... But my good friend ALEX talked me out of it. I think I enjoy being a dick when I can. That's Enkidu in me talking. He's not evil, he's just not as kind as I am. Neither of us are nice to begin with.

So for the record, I HATE 21 QUESTIONS. No one intentionally plays it, but you know you're playing it when your questions are "What's your favorite color", "What do you do for a living", "How old are you", "Where do you live", "What's your mother's maiden name".... Just stab me with a fork already why dont'cha? So already I was turned off. But I didn't quit just then because she looked really artsy so I thought I would appeal to her depth...
That didn't work out so well either. I couldn't see past her grammar errors and internet speak. And when she answered "I'm a Granny Smith", which I'd already heard 4 times that day, I was pretty far gone. But I still didn't quit because there was a chance for redemption if she had a good reason. And she didn't give me one. So when she said, "maybe i should have just point off any answer because now i don't even feel inspired to answer the question because for some reason i'm a bit put off by ur last response.." I took the opportunity to Batman my way out of there.
I wanted to be more harsh, say something like "I'm sorry you're incapable of a deeper conversation", or "I'm just on a higher wavelength than you". But that is unnecessary and is the internet equivalent of yelling out "Well you's is a dumb ugly bitch anywayz" on the street to a girl who said she's not interested. I went with the "You're not interested? Oh good, because I've been trying to get rid of you for a while now" approach..

My question, readers, is Where Did I go Wrong?